Ми (Me)“I Have No Friends”: Why Friendships Are In Decline In Modern Times And What To Do About It
Friends are awesome. People with close friends are happier, healthier, saner1, and they live longer.
Unfortunately, friendships are in decline. “I have no friends” is a common complaint of our times. Although humanity is more connected than ever thanks to the internet and smartphones, modern humans have an increasingly harder time making friends.
Urban living, the rise of individualism, helicopter parenting, busy schedules, and the decline of face-to-face communications made it harder for modern people to build and maintain friendships.
Although both sexes are affected by the decline in friendships, men took a harder hit than women due to the biological differences between the sexes and the current state of society. It’s no surprise that in modernized societies the average woman lives 5 to 7 years longer than the average man.
Here are the reasons why friendships between men deteriorated more than friendships between women:
Modern men have gone soft. The majority of modern men being effeminate, pussy-whipped, self-loathing fruitcakes resulted in a declining pool of friendship prospects. A soft man is not worth befriending nor he’s looking for friends as long as he’s in a relationship.
There are fewer male-only environments. Previously male-only environments such as the workplace, bars, sports clubs, travel destinations, and even the army are increasingly infiltrated by women. Fewer men’s spaces mean fewer male friendships. The popularity of the cult movie Fight Club is in part a manifestation of the yearning of the modern men for male-only communities. Men tend to connect and bond with each other in the presence of a common purpose while women can connect for no other reason than a connection is better for them than loneliness.
Having friends ceased to be a requirement for survival. Joining forces with other men increased a man’s chances of survival in tribal times, which no longer is the case in modern times. Probably none of us civilians will starve or die due to a lack of friends. This optionality makes friendships disposable.
The war against men. Feminists and their enablers successfully branded masculinity as toxic. Except for a handful of men who stubbornly refuse to make concessions to their masculinity, the majority of the modern men folded under the pressure and handed their balls to their enemies. As male camaraderie is a core aspect of masculinity, the current war against men wreaks havoc on modern men’s ability to form solid friendships with each other.